"Don't irritate him unnecessarily."
So you like the truth, no matter how it hurts, is that right, Sag? You believe in honesty, whatever the cost in suffering, correct? All right, steel yourself. You asked for it. You're going to get it. There may be a few Capricorn men on this Earth who were sadly orphaned as infants or small boys (a truly heartbreaking experience for this Sun Sign), and there may also be a few Goats who fiercely resented
their parents and ran away from home to join a carnival when they were little shavers. Maybe about half a dozen. On the entire planet. But unless he was born with a powerfully afflicted Moon and Saturn in his birth chart, the average Capricorn man (the kind you're probably in love with) will uphold his family in much the same manner as that statue of Atlas, on Fifth Avenue, in New York, across the street from St. Patrick's, carries the world on his shoulders with the same resignation, for roughly the same period of time. (Atlas hasn't shrugged the world off his shoulders yet, at least he hadn't when I last passed him.)
Let this be a warning to the cheerful, trusting Sagittarius girl who thinks her Goat loves her above all else in the Universe. He loves her, yes. He may even worship her, bring her a rosebud on their anniversary (when the florist is having a half-price sale), let her drive his car (if he does that, he really loves her), but she is not and never will be the most important thing in this Universe to him. His family holds that honor - and they will as long as he draws breath.Whether they're a burden to him because they all get along rather badly or a pleasure because they're all a rolicking fun bunch, family is family. A Capricorn man who's been irreparably hurt by his siblings or parents may not hang around home forever, but he'll bear the scars for a Lifetime. The Goat won't necessarily cling to the actual house where his parents are residing, like the male Crab. Capricorns will even move out of the city or state where their folks live. Nevertheless,however near or far he may be from them, trying to wean this man away from his family is like trying to unstick that glue that holds a Volkswagen up in
the air. Crazy Glue, I think it's called. And crazy is the girl who tries the impossible.
To the girl Archer, families are certainly jolly sorts, and undeniably handy to have around when one needs to borrow an extra few dollars, or needs a place to crash over an occasional weekend, but her individualism probably caused her to cut ties with home early in Life, and rush off to follow the distant calliope music. If this means leaving the family behind and keeping in touch with a picture postcard from time to time, no harm done. Birds are supposed to leave the nest, aren't they? As a matter of fact, in Nature, the baby bird is actually pushed out of the nest by his anxious parents, so he'll learn to fly and survive.Sag thinks that's both a sensible and an exciting child-rearing theory.
Capricorn thinks it's ghoulish, gruesome, and unfeeling. The very idea turns the Goat pale. What an awful thing to do. Who's going to feed them and take care of them when winter comes? Not the baby birds - the parent birds.It's Cancer who worries-about-being-worried-about. Capricorn is concerned about his family, not because he needs protection, but because the Goat thinks they need protection. It's different. The end result is the same - both Cancer and Capricorn are difficult to separate from their families. But the motive is anything but the same, and motives are what matter.
Can you imagine what happens with a Capricorn parent and a Cancer child - or vice versa? It's frightening, really frightening. Read the Cancer Capricorn section and see. But not yet. We still haven't rescued that poor girl Archer from her romantic notions about the Goat she loves.
The Capricorn male is not the aggressive type. Most of them are touchingly old-fashioned and gallant. This is not a man who will swoop her off her feet with a Tarzan yell and head for the jungle to woo her near a sleepy lagoon in the moonlight. What if Boy should be looking - or a strange gorilla should happento pass by, out for a midnight stroll? Capricorns are quite proper and circumspect, always concerned - to some degree, at least - about "what people will think." This doesn't mean he's unromantic. It only means that his romancing (in the early stages) might be tinged with timidity. But to the Sagittarian woman who loves him, when he ventures a shy grin . . . when his quiet eyes twinkle as he says something intimate in a coded way only the two of them understand,he'll bear a remarkable resemblance to a jungle hero, even if he doesn't swing on a vine while he's saying it. All the other men in her life will seem like apes gauche and brassy, pushy and immature. If there's anything a Capricorn male is not, it's immature. His emotional maturity is, in fact, the thing she needs most
from him, and give her credit for sensing this.
Male Goats seldom behave like little boys, even when they are chronologically little boys. Those few Capricorns who drink or take drugs to excess - or allow their emotions to spill over in public - have extremely afflicted birth charts, and should be pitied, not censured. Such behavior troubles their own
consciences more than it could possibly trouble those around them, because it's foreign to their very natures. It's like being bottled up inside a body which behaves in a way so unlike yourself, it's truly scary and tragic. Not being true to one's own Sun Sign essence is a warning signal of serious dimensions. A lazy Virgo, a timid Leo, a pushy Pisces... an extravagant Taurus . . . and so on . . . can be headed in the wrong direction, with much sadness in store.
If the girl Archer has complaints to register with her Capricorn lover or husband concerning his disposition at times, she should curb her natural instinct for candor and bluntness. She can save his feelings - and their relationship by studying a thesaurus and using her head. It will save lots of wear and tear on her heart in the long run if she'll play a kind of synonym game when she's angry.Here's an example. What's another way to say selfish? Self-indulgent. Another way to say cold and heartless? How about sensible, but insensitive?Stingy is a harsh word. Economical or thrifty is kinder. Instead of stuffy, how about careful and respectable? And like that.
If she yells at him: "You're selfish! You're cold and heartless! Besides all that, you're stingy and stuffy!" - she'll lose him (and also lose her chance to mature under his firm, patient guidance). It's softer, less raw and stinging, if she simply says, calmly: "You're very self-indulgent, you know, at times. You're also a little too practical, economical, and careful. Do you realize that? " (Even if she's calling him a stingy, selfish, cold-hearted monster under her breath.)When she expresses her complaints like this, he'll probably make a mental note that he should soften his edges a little, and he may even smile. Yes, smile.
It's amazing how people are pleased to hear a dubious quality of their Sun Sign described (if the harsh word for it is avoided), even though that quality may be what others consider negative. Tell a Taurus he's impulsive, he'll frown.The same word will utterly delight an Aries. Tell a Leo he's proud, he'll beam.The same word will offend a Virgo. Tell a Gemini he's changeable, he'll grin in assent. The same word will bring you a sting of resentment from a Scorpion.Him changeable? No way. Tell a Cancerian he's conservative, he'll take it as a compliment to his cautious nature - but tell a Sag she's conservative, and she'll tell you to go sit on a cow pie. And so on. What is one person's fault in the eyes of others, is to his (or her) way of viewing it, a virtue. It's a good thing it works out that way, otherwise none of us could live with ourselves, right? Right! (Aries is always right, never wrong. Do you think that's self-centered? I'm an Aries, and I think it's a splendid quality! If you think it's negative, it's just because you're jealous.)
There's not doubt that a Capricorn male can appear to be cold, because he's afraid to show his emotions too openly, lest they be trampled upon (and a Sagittarius woman can walk pretty heavily over the heart sometimes). But he's not totally selfish. It's true he can be most considerate of himself, but constantly telling him he's selfish will only cause him to eventually live up to the image. The person you love gradually grows into the image you hold of him (or her) in your mind and heart. Didn't you know that? It's true. It's an inviolate metaphysical law regarding the interreaction of human emotions within the powerful vibratory sphere of love.
Speaking of love, that leads us to sex, since the two matters can't be separated with success in an emotional relationship between a man and woman. Sex alone leads to sickness of the spirit and deadly emptiness. Love alone, without sex, is unfulfilling and lonely - for love and sex are twins. The sexual compatibility of this 2-12 Sun Pattern, made of Earth and Fire, will be as good or as bad as their adjustment in other facets of their personalities cause it to be. In the beginning, there's a compulsion to touch, a powerful sense of curiosity on the part of each, which adds much magnetism to the chemistry between them. He is so . . . different; what is he like as a lover? (Different from her, she means.) She is so . . . different; what would it be like to totally possess her? (Different from him, he means.)
Undeniably, such strong mutual curiosity creates a powerful sexual attraction between them. It's only later, when their love has passed the new stage and entered into the familiar, that the physical aspect of their relationship may begin to lose its appeal. Satisfied curiosity takes the edge off the trembling anticipation.But with a little more imagination from him . . . a little more patience from her . . . they'll learn that familiarity need not breed contempt. Familiarity can bring a rare kind of warm affection and deep passion that mere curiosity for the strange can't touch. He must guard against the emotional clumsiness of making love then quickly falling asleep - or of sexual blending without endearments.She must watch her tendency to verbal clumsiness, like zapping him with an arrow of hurtful truth a second or two before he reaches out to embrace her. Then she'll complain about his "coldness," when she's the one who doused his erotic intentions with ice water.
Their ruling planets tell the story. His is Saturn, and Saturn can be unduly restrictive. Hers is Jupiter, and Jupiter can be excessive and overwhelming.When Saturn and Jupiter blend their vibrations, these two planets can (literally, in astrology) create earthquakes. Each planet possesses a different kind of power but neither planet is bland nor boring. Taking a planetary hint, he should make an attempt to mature her impulsively passionate nature into a deeper,more satisfying ecstasy, taking care not to freeze her desire in the process. She should realize how achingly he longs for someone to unlock the key of his Saturnineprison of caution . . . someone like her to set him free emotionally, so he can abandon his caution and enjoy the passion he feels more strongly than she knows . . . deep within.
This is a man who is more at home perched high on a mountain top alone(or with her) than walking the noisy, crowded highways of Life. He requires some degree of fame and wordly success. (As long as he doesn't have to sign autographs. He'd hate that.) To the extent this is denied him, he needs from his woman an equal measure of respectful recognition of both his public and private achievements. It's a vital need, and can't be stressed too much. He admires and envies the famous, the successful, and therefore feels he's failed if he hasn't made it to the top of at least a modest hill. It needn't be Pike's Peak.The key to his moods is his disappointment in himself, in his level of attainment the distance between his actual record and his inner goal.
The Sagittarian woman doesn't share his quiet and controlled, yet desperate,need to reach the mountain top, but she does need to know that the arrows of shining hope she shoots from her Jupiter bow of faith and idealism occasionally hit their mark. Her seeking heart needs a miraculous bull's-eye now and then, or her fiery spirit will leave her. And what is a Sag without fire and spirit? A very sad girl clown. There's nothing sadder than a clown whose bright, brave greasepaint is smeared with tears.
When he's grumpy because his success is still hiding in the mist... and she's blue because her dreams are so slow and poky coming true . . . they should catch a flight to some faraway, exotic place where there's a touch of magic in the air. It sometimes happens that a trip together will bring out the wishing stars again for a Goat and an Archer who have stopped kissing each other goodnight.
