"See," he said, "the arrow struck against this. It is the kiss
I gave her. It has saved her life."
The Sagittarius woman who has been disillusioned by a Gemini or Virgo man, or has perhaps been deeply wounded by a careless arrow from another Sag, could find the affectionate protectiveness and gentle love of a Libra man a very healing experience. His devotion can remove a lot of remembered pain from her heart, caused by more-callous, less-caring lovers in the past.
But Paradise may be postponed a bit, for the very first problem that often pounds insistently for a solution in a love affair between them is: How far should it go? Should it be only a magical moment, destined to fade into memory as a miracle never quite grasped? Is it simply one of those inexplicable excursions into madness, incited by a powerful chemistry? Then comes the terrible double-decision: Should they live together, and wait for Time to determine their feelings, to either deepen them or destroy them, and if so - should they live together secretly - or openly - which?
Or should they just get married right away, and be done with all the deliberation?The situation can even be more complicated. Perhaps he or she is already married, and separated, legally or emotionally, from another mate. Is this mutual need that they feel only a fleeting passion, or is it real enough for them to allow it to break the commitment to the former relationship, which has been in limbo?
It can be worse. Maybe one or both of them have been divorced for several or even many years, and there's no worry that their love will cause a final break with someone else; there is instead the problem of whether or not one should risk a second marital scene when the first was such a serious and sad mistake,causing misery and unhappiness. When half of a love affair is a Libra, unless these two meet in their teens, chances are that a previous marriage, or more than one, will color the decision of "to love or not to love." Librans almost always marry young, and it works out half of the times - the other half of the times it does not. (Those Libra Scales must balance, even in the area of general statistics.)
She may not have already been married when they meet. There are exceptions,of course, always - but normally girl Archers don't rush into legal ties as early as Libra males are wont to do. They're too fond of their freedom. However,if not husbands, it's almost certain she will have had other loves before she meets the soft-spoken Libra man who wraps her up in the feather quilt of his smile (again, unless they're still in high school, and maybe even then, because Sagittarius is as curious and experimental about romance as about every other phase and facet of life). In truth, the Libra man who loves this woman stands a better chance of holding her if they meet after she has emotionally matured. To be her very first love can be a lovely and moving experience, the kind a man may remember for the rest of his life - but it doesn't always accomplish the desired result of permanency. Her heart needs to be seasoned to be able to understand and treasure a lasting love.
Not that she takes love lightly, no matter how many love affairs she might have wandered through with those naive, trusting eyes, so wide open, yet so blind to the realities of human nature. Because of both the duality and the truth-seeking aspect of the Sun Sign, some Sagittarius females take emotional detours along their searching path, ranging all the way from promiscuity to spinsterhood or the vows of religious sisterhood. But we're discussing, in this chapter, the average, middle-of-the-road Sag, who has her dainty (but slightly clumsy) foot on the Libra man's Scales. (Librans are awfully fond of anything that is middle-of-the-road.) This kind of Sagittarius girl is seldom light or casual concerning love. Each time she loves, she believes with all her heart that this must be the first time two people ever felt such wonder. She sincerely wants love to be real and forever-after, as in the faerie tales she used to read, each time she stumbles over a romantic adventure. In this respect, she differs slightly from the average Sagittarian male, to whom permanency is not a prime priority.(The male Archer has to be seduced into wanting forever things.)
The Libra man in love with this lovely and touching clown of a girl should remember that her Jupiter rulership means she has, symbolically, greasepaint in her blood. Many Archers are professional actors or actresses (just as many Librans are lawyers, judges, policemen, authors or bookstore owners). Even if she's not literally a thespian, she is "of the theatre" and although she doesn't always consciously realize it, she's capable of putting on some Academy Awardwinning performances, for which Life never gives her an Oscar. She loves, she trusts, she believes, she tries with all her fiery idealism and determination, then falls into heartbreak with no net to catch her, because Sag would rather gamble on happiness than be burdened with excessive insurance or assurance. It hurts,to fall without a net to break your fall. This woman's heart bears more cuts,bruises and scars than her sunny, optimistic personality ever leads others to suspect,for whether she's a secretary, a scientist or a singer, she make-believes sadness away with her considerable acting talents, aided by her cheerful grin.
When her cheerful Jupiter grin locks into the devastatingly brilliant smile of a Libra man, the room they're in won't need any artificial light. These two will light it up with such candlepower, midnight will seem like noon. This isn't an exaggerated attempt at astrological humor, but quite true. Mixing up the sexes a bit, image the incorrigible sunny grins of Sagittarians like ex-mayor of New York John Lindsay, actress Mary Martin, Sammy Davis, Jr., and entrepreneur-or-whatever David Susskind. Then image the blinding smiles of Dwight Eisenhower, President Jimmy Carter and Eleanor Roosevelt, and you'll see that I am not jesting.
If a Libran and an Archer ever held up a bank (not that they're likely to, because Libra would be unable to decide where to park the getaway car, and Sag would trip over the satchel of money and drop the gun) - but if they did hold up a bank, they'd flash the combination of the Jupiter grin and Venus smile,and the teller would probably hand them the cash, smile back and wave a cheery goodbye to them. They're a contagious, irresistible team. Maybe not that irresistible,but almost - and especially so to each other.
Once they've solved all those should-we-or-shouldn't-we, and when-should we-and-how-should-we problems, this man and woman can draw enough happiness interest from their love so that they won't need to rob a bank - or revert to their search for someone to share their lives. They'll have to work at it, of course, like anyone else, but with much less effort. All the ingredients are there to build romance into a lasting love. They can count on the natural harmonics of human nature to smooth the way for them. Another blessed thing about their relationship, as with all 3-11 vibrations, is that they'll be good friends, as well as lovers. This is what first drew them together - similar goals and sympathies,common ideals and the need for change and excitement. All true lovers are friends, but not all lovers who are friends would still be friends if they stopped loving in a romantic sense. Libra and Sagittarius probably would be.
Friendship always adds a rich dimension to the emotional tie between a man and woman, and it never fails to deepen their sexual experience together.For all the Sagittarius woman's impulsive, sometimes careless attitude toward intense emotion, she'll be unusually thoughtful, soft and feminine with her gentle Libra lover or husband. Their strong friendship creates a great deal of real affection between them that makes physical union a happy kind of sharing. It's a nice thing when sex between two people is happy and open and free. Like the clear, cool air of autumn, warmed in the Sun, when the sky is so blue you feel that someone has dropped liquid turquoise in your eyes. The intimacy of physical union with someone you really love, who is also a friend, makes you feel clean and washed and rested - and good. Love between Jupiter and Venus is always special in some way. More than most couples, they're aware of how the miracle of love makes them both feel extra kind and sweet and generous, able to see their dreams more clearly - the way poets feel when they capture emotion in words. Love does that. It makes a man and woman want to embrace the world, not just each other, to include everyone in their happiness; it makes everything negative just a little more positive, makes fear of tomorrow seem foolish and almost any wild thing seem possible. Libra and Sagittarius are better able than most to express these kinds of feelings verbally to each other. And expressing them makes them last longer.
These two know how to talk together. They may quarrel as much as any other couple, perhaps even more often and more violently, but it's the talking that's important. When they openly discuss their hurts, jealousies, sexual adjustments,financial worries and mutual complaints, they've taken a big step
toward solving them.. and sometimes, just the talking them over causes them to disappear. The disagreements of Libra and Sag frequently end in lovemaking and laughter. Self-awareness is less painfully gained when someone who loves you is honest enough to hold up the mirror of truth to your faults.
There will be occasions when the blunt way she points out his faults, like working overtime and leaving her alone will sting and anger him enough to make him work even later for a few nights, to teach her who's boss. There will be times when his vacillation will annoy her, because she's more impulsive, quicker to know what she wants. Then she'll tell him to make up his mind, to get his acttogether, or she'll leave him. He'll tell her she isn't being fair, maybe go to a few parties without her -perhaps drink or eat his troubles away until his Scales are level again. He needs a smoothly run, quiet, peaceful and restful home as he needs the very air to breathe. She despises the drudgery of housework (though she can be a delightful hostess). He may complain that the TV or stereo is tooloud, the kitchen is a mess, and the draperies don't match the bedspread, so why did she buy them? She'll retort that, for a neatness nut, he's pretty sloppy himself,and she's not going to spend her life being his maid. But then they'll talk it over, and harmony will hum once more between them.
His physical presence has a wonderfully calming effect on her restlessness,and he'll enjoy teaching her to be more patient when things go wrong. Her physical presence excites him in a way that causes him to forget things, such as his indecisive fretting over trifles, and that's a healthy kind of amnesia. With Libra ruling balanced judgment, and Sagittarius ruling philosophy, a few of their discourses can result in some very sound, Socratic observations on human relationships - as when they're discussing the people they thought they loved before they found each other.
LIBRA: The last man you loved . . . how did he make you feel?
SAG: Somehow, ashamed of my identity. I guess he made me feel confused.
LIBRA: What makes you feel less confused about your own identity?
SAG: You. When I'm with you, I don't mind being myself. He made me feel less me, and you make me feel more me.
LIBRA: That's how you make me feel too. Not less me, like she did - but more me. It's good when someone makes you happy to be yourself, instead of ashamed to be yourself.
SAG: DO you suppose that's what love is?
LIBRA: I'm not sure. But I know that's what our love is. I've known that from the beginning.
SAG: Oh, no you haven't! It took you forever to make up your mind about us.I almost went back to Marvin. At least he knows his own mind.
LIBRA: That's not fair of you. I know my own mind perfectly well.
SAG: You're a fine one to talk about being fair. Was it fair of you to keep me dangling while you went off to Tulsa to decide if you wanted to marry me or not?
LIBRA: It wasn't Tulsa. I would never go to Tulsa. It was Coshocton, Ohio.
SAG: I don't care where it was, I wish you'd go back there, and leave me alone!
It's time to leave them. They're involved in a typical Fire-Air pattern. In an hour or so, they'll be involved in the kind of passionate reconciliation that will make him forget all about the drapes not matching the bedspread. Afterward,he'll help her with the dishes while the stereo plays their favorite song,"You Light Up My Life," a Jupiter-Venus song if there ever was one
