The ARIES - GEMINI Relationship

It was not really Saturday night, at least it may have been, for they had long lost count of the days; but always if they wanted to do anything special they said this was Saturday night, and then they did it. 

Working as a team, this combination of Sun Signs could sell Manhattan back to the Indians - blackouts, muggers, creaky subways, uncollected garbage, and all. Of course, both of them being idealists, they would probably realize what a rotten deal the Indians got in the beginning, and end up giving them back New York for a few strands of love beads and a peace button, along with all the other rights the white man stole from his red brother - if they could swing it. 

Because both Aries and Gemini love causes, and share the same talent for creative, persistent salesmanship, they can perform fantastic feats of ingenuity together. They also share a casual attitude toward accumulating great power or money, which may be why they are seldom as successful as they should be, considering all the emotional (Aries) and mental (Gemini) energy they pour into anything that interests them - for the moment, that is. Nothing holds the interest of either of these Sun Signs for longer than a moment. Well, sometimes maybe two or three moments. 

Since Aries bubbles with naive impetuosity, and Gemini is determined to attain complete independence by breaking every bond of the spirit, maturity of thought seldom supports their mutual endeavors. 

One might say that the combined qualities of this 3-11 Sun Sign Pattern association present a picture of optimism, punctuated with brief splashes (usually, very brief) of sensitivity and hidden insecurities. When Aries and Gemini blend their natures as neighbors, friends, business associates, relatives, lovers or mates, it doubles up their individual drives for freedom against all who would confine them in a morass of convention and caution. Separately or together, they look young, act young - and therefore, quite naturally, often behave like children. 

Now, children can be endearing, guileless and lovable. They can also be unintentionally selfish, irrational and thoughtless. So it is with any association between this 3-11 influenced team. Preferably both of them, but at least one of the two, must eventually grow up, or most of their time together will
It's their innocence, or ignorance, whichever, of their own individual natures. In other words, they're both as expert at selling themselves as they are at selling the general public. If the product being sold isn't genuine, the Gemini will usually be the first of the two of them to suspect it, with Mercury's sharp, analytical mind, although Gemini is capable of outsmarting himself (or herself), by continuing to imagine it still may be what he-she originally believed it was. As for Aries, it's extremely difficult for this Sun Sign to tell the difference between what glitters so enticingly - and real gold. Such discrimination is learned by the Ram only after repeated, heartbreaking disillusion and disappointment. 

I've been referring to the "two of them." Actually, perhaps I should say the "three of them," because, although Aries is clearly one person, indivisible, "with liberty and justice for all," every Gemini is distinctly two people, the person heshe really is and the person she-he would like to be. The Twins, you know. Add the Mars ego of the Ram - almost a separate entity in itself - and it can get pretty crowded, with all those auras mixing, attracting and repelling, blending and clashing, by turns. It's not a bad idea for these two Sun Sign people, essentially compatible as they are, to stand apart at intervals and take a fresh look at each other from a distance. It clears away some of the smog that's bound to accumulate between them. 

Aries pushes ahead instinctively, convinced of the sincerity of cause, as well as the eventual victory, with little or no time out to reflect on the pros and cons of any given situation or problem. Conversely, Gemini weighs, sorts and figures out all possible maneuvers and conclusions with the cool, casual detachment and logic so typical of all three Air Signs (Aquarius and Libra being the other two). Yet for all Gemini's mental gymnastics, practicality may be missing. Gemini can quickly deduce what might go wrong but often decides to outwit destiny or fate, and even himself (or herself) by clever Mercurial strategy. There are other differences of approach between these two. 

Aries, influenced by a Cardinal Sign, will insist on being at the head of things, leading, challenging, always initiating and inspiring, with enthusiasm and daring. The Ram will accept just about any idea, sound or unsound, that appeals to and arouses the emotions - to which the ego can relate in a personal way. Mutable Gemini prefers to relate in an impersonal manner, and will accept ideas that appeal to the mental deductive process, communicating through the logic and cleverness of Mercury reason, while the true self remains in the background, watching - unsuspected by those who are being hypnotized with the Gemini charm. 

Aries enjoys riding the lead elephant and waving to the crowd, but the Twins have no burning desire to be the glory-spangled hero or heroine. Gemini would rather delegate all the confining duties and obligations of leadership to others, remaining free of responsibility, free to try on new ideas for size to explore new people, places and things. The Geminian analysis is less intense than that of Aries, since everything is calmly checked through the computer of the mind for possible flaws - or potential. Although the Gemini approach is essentially mental, the Twins sympathize with the Ram's emotional approach, even while remaining detached from such over-involvement himself (or herself). Mercury-ruled men and women understand the Mars reckless impulses. Nevertheless, they realize that their own best course is to avoid becoming emotionally entangled, whenever possible.

Close human associations that threaten to smother, long-term employment without either change or challenge - anything that nails down their dreams or clips Mercury's wings, Geminis distrust, for fear their very spirits will be confined. The Air Sign of Gemini strives to soar above the flames that rage around the Fire Sign of Aries. By remaining aloof and slightly out of reach, Gemini more often manages to achieve the kind of freedom Aries also seeks but doesn't always find. Of course, too much mental and emotional freedom can create its own confusions, and when the Twins get caught in the webs of their own mental convolutions, the very directness of the Ram can sometimes help to untangle the knots. 

Fortunately, the typical Aries person not only senses the duality of Gemini but is usually willing to give it room to be. That's why this association is frequently beneficial to the Geminian, because understanding - or the lack of understanding - concerning his (or her) dreams has a great deal to do with whether they come true, simply grow rusty, or become only will-o'-the-wisps. Gemini eternally chases but never catches. A Gemini will dream from the time he-she is a tiny tot, until past the century mark. To most people, Mercury's curiosity and experimental urges seem like a patchwork of erratic, changing attention spans, but the Ram seems to recognize that all these myriad interests are only Gemini's attempt to integrate the many-sided, fascinating-to-Aries, Mercurial personality. 

An Aries person is less likely to resent the Gemini's flitting from subject to subject, in the search for all the answers, while shooting forth a continual flow of imagination and static energy. Interrupting a Mercury Bird when he-she is verbally expressing is like trying to catch a firefly, and oddly, the Rams (who are rather experts at interrupting themselves) comprehend this. These two continually interrupt each other, with a mutual lack of resentment, a most jolly thing about their association. 

If there's a negative aspect between the Sun and Moon or Ascendent in their birth charts, Aries may accuse Gemini of too much woolgathering and not enough concrete action, and will try to box Gemini into direct answers. Then the satirical tongue of Gemini may wound the Ram's easily bruised ego, and there will be a fiery battle, with sparks flying everywhere, as Gemini's airy attitude fans the flames of Mars anger. Still, the winds will change, after a while, even after the stormiest scenes and bitterness is seldom allowed by either of them to linger. As with all 3-11 vibrational patterns, Aries and Gemini are basically good friends, and most always remain that way, in addition to being able to verbally communicate their differences of opinion to such an extent that they clear the air for a resumption of harmony. 

The Mercurial mind of Gemini, no matter how cleverly it's occasionally disguised behind a mask of calm and charm, resembles a top. Always spinning. Aries will happily jump on for the ride, and probably enjoy the dizzy pace. As long as the Ram doesn't try to chain Gemini's free spirit with too many questions and demands, it will work out rather smoothly between these two. (These four, counting the Ram, the Twins, and the Mars ego.) Aries and Gemini can build sand castles from the colorful ethers of their combined thought images tall enough to reach all the way to the stars. But the foundation must be sound and stable, or they'll topple to the ground. If they build strongly in the beginning, the end could be really out of sight - all rainbows, butterflies and leprechauns.

Patience is the secret key to the other side of the fence, where the grass always looks greener and fresher to both Aries and Gemini, the eternal young ones, who search for Shangri-la, the Emerald City of Oz, Wonderland and the Fountain of Youth. Together, they have a better chance of finding all these places than most people ... or than they would have if they each searched alone.

THE ARIES AND GEMINI RELATIONSHIP

ARIES Man - TAURUS Woman

ARIES Man - TAURUS Woman

"... unless this tie is round my neck we don't go out

to dinner to-night, and if I don't go out to dinner

to-night, I never go to the office again, and if I

don't go to the office again, you and I starve ..."

Even then Mrs. Darling was placid. "Let me try, dear,"

she said and with her nice cool hands she tied

the tie for him.

In an Aries-Taurus romance or marriage, when the woman is the Taurus and the man is the Aries, the relationship has a slight edge for success over its chances when the sexes are reversed. That's not a guarantee either way, of course, it's just what I said - a slight edge. The qualities of passivity, steadfastness, and quiescent receptivity (Taurus) are more natural when exercised through the female. The qualities of aggression, independence and forceful action (Aries) are more natural when exercised through the male - never mind Women's Liberation, which is right and good and timely and necessary, and all that, but the passage of ERA is never going to forcefully (or any other way) alter Mother Nature's basic tenets. At the very least, the conflicts may be somewhat fewer in number, when she's the Taurean and he's the Ram, in this 2-12 vibration. Still, it's the intensity of the conflicts, not the quantity of them, that damages any relationship, so these two ought not to become heady with optimism. It depends. Mostly on the Moon and Ascendent positions of each of them.

A Taurus woman, unless the fourth house of her horoscope is severely afflicted, is a born homemaker. (Thank goodness somebody enjoys it!) Even if she has adverse aspects in her birth chart which tend to tempt her into spending a few years as a playgirl type (a most rare occurrence), her basic desire, nevertheless, is to create a comfortable home, filled with fine furnishings, good food, babies and music - with the beds all nicely made, the corners clean, the laundry folded and put away and all the bills paid. Throw in a flower garden in the back yard, and an extra powder room, well stocked with bubble bath. She's not unreasonably jealous, without good cause; she's patient and she seldom nags. She's normally a warm, gracious hostess for her husband's business friends - and a pretty good listener.



Now, since an Aries male requires a constant and dependable sounding board while he discusses his favorite topic - himself - since he frequently brings people home to sell them a new project or idea he's dreamed up - and since he's a little careless with the budget, because he never learned to spell the word "thrift" in grammar school - you can see how a Taurus woman can provide him with a perfect base of operations. Normally, Aries men like sports, and the typical Taurus female loves nature. So if the sport he happens to favor is camping out, or hiking in the woods, add another plus on the potential success side of their relationship. Otherwise, there might be some Saturday-afternoon football tension.

The trouble starts in areas they may never anticipate during the mating season. She may prefer living in the country or the suburbs, and most Aries men can't exist for long, without the excitement and action of the city. There may be some who can, but they're few and far between, and even they like to flash around in the bright lights on weekends. Camping and hiking aside, he's not a farm boy at heart. If he has a Taurus Moon Sign or Ascendent, he may plant a few potatoes or milk a few cows, but essentially, for him, the pull of the sod will never replace grabbing a taxi to catch a miracle.

Sparks may also fly in the area of mutual funds, because their attitude toward money is not necessarily mutual. He wants a new car; she wants a new freezer. Things like that. His favorite man at the bank is the one in the Loan Department. Her favorite man at the bank is the one in the Savings Department. You know how bankers like to push their own thing, so these two outsiders don't help matters any by pulling the Bull and the Ram apart. However, when he spends money on jewelry for her, or on furniture for the house, she may be more loose about it. Taurus females usually appreciate fine jewels and luxurious decor in the home, but they'll expect these things to be practical, made to last for a few hundred years before they need to be replaced.

Despite her general tranquility, she may lose her cool if he burns holes in her new couch or spills grape juice on her carpet (before marriage, you can substitute her new skirt or her carefully clutched pocketbook for the couch and carpet). It's hard for him to figure why she gets so upset over such small incidents. To Aries, crying over spilled milk (or grape juice) is a huge waste of time. If something is lost, broken or damaged, there's always more where it came from. Taurus has a few doubts about that.



Fortunately, most of their disagreements can be smoothed over by reconciliations at bedtime since the physical relationship between them can be snugly satisfying. The Aries male is certainly not unhappy about the Taurus woman's capacity for sensual, erotic feeling, but he may be somewhat frustrated by her lack of mystical creativity when it comes to making love. She welcomes sex as a practical and enjoyable activity that brings a total gratification of the senses and the added bonus of producing some bouncing bambinos. She may, therefore, fail to comprehend why sex should be like a wild dream that transports two souls to the top of a mountain in Tibet, like a comet streaking across the night sky - or a miracle connected with throwing three coins into the Fountain of Trevi, in Rome. To her, sex is sex. Love is love. What does any of it have to do with tossing a few Lincolns into some dirty, green water - or with comets, for that matter? This woman has a funny bone about sex, since Taurus humor isn't restricted to any one facet of Life. It's broad. If the Aries man should happen to step on a tack as he's running passionately toward the bed on their honeymoon, she'll crack up laughing. His reaction? It may postpone the honeymoon a few days - or nights - until his Martian male ego has recovered.


Still, although she may remain mystified by his romantic idealism during their entire association together, it needn't necessarily cause complete sexual incompatibility. There are deep emotional wells in her, and it's possible that her ultra-feminine response to the Ram's strong, direct love urges, plus her obvious pleasure with his masculine charisma, may eventually make him wonder why he thought he had to go climbing mountains in search of happiness anyway. It's possible. Not certain, but possible. (Aries is reluctant to accept substitutes for miracles.)

A word of warning: Just because the Taurus girl doesn't pick up every nuance of the Aries sexuality, this should not be interpreted to mean that she's not sentimental or romantic. She is. Oh, she most certainly is! If she's ignored on February 14th, or if he forgets to remember the day they first met (first made love together, first decided to get married, got married or whatever, in whichever order), the inconsiderate, thoughtless Ram who neglected to honor these historic occasions will never hear the end of it. This woman has a memory like an elephant for personal injury and emotional hurt.


Some of the astrological descriptions of the Taurus female make her seem like a contented cow in a pasture, and that's pretty insulting. So what if she isn't overtly flashy, the center of attention at every gathering? Her quiet beauty is like a still pool, filled with fragrant lilies, deep in a piney forest. Taurus magnetism pulls powerfully on a man's heartstrings, because it promises such peace and rich adventure, especially on a Ram's restless heartstrings. The Aries male soon discovers that this feminine creature, who is so calm and composed (the way he'd secretly like to be himself), can fill his spirit with fresh flowers, fill his house with the music of love and companionship, besides being an uncommonly good cook. In addition, she can fill his heart with lots of laughs, and a loyal devotion that can outlast forever. She also knows how to accumulate and save money. No cow could pull off all that. This girl can well afford to leave the false lashes (which look like spiders' legs) to the less-female types than she. She's all warm woman, and she doesn't need the masquerade of artificial glamour to prove it.

What she may need to do, however, is to climb out of her earthy rut, now and then. A lady Taurean can seem pretty cold and heartless to the friendly, direct and open-hearted Aries man when she's made up her mind about something, and slammed the door in the face of any further discussion. If he shouts at her that she's stubborn at such times, it will do about as much good as when she tells him, firmly, that he's selfish and spoiled. In a word - none.


Who, her - stubborn? Who, him - selfish and spoiled? It wouldn't be wise for either of them to hold his or her breath until the other admits such character deficiencies.

Lots of affection, plenty of ambition, honesty and the guarantee of financial security are the four ways to her heart. An Aries man can supply the first three with no difficulty, but he may have to make some adjustments in his general life-style to meet her expectations of the last item. Aries incomes do tend to often fluctuate, and that can make this lady very nervous.

Normally, of course, she's not nervous - only when her emotional or financial security is threatened. At most other times, she exudes a placid mystique that can be deliciously relaxing, in particular, to a Ram. It can also be a substantial aid in recharging the batteries of this man's dynamic Mars energies when he's run down from his various mental, emotional or physical excesses.

ARIES MAN AND TAURUS WOMAN LOVE COMPATIBILITY

(An Aries man will jog till he drops.) Admittedly, when she goes into one of her very rare rages, her placid mystique can change into anger of volcanic proportions, without much of a warning. But it happens so seldom, it's one of the least likely causes for trouble in their relationship - unless the Ram is foolish enough to insist on trying to win these infrequent, but dangerous, encounters. It will never happen. Retreat is the expedient strategy. Go fight an earthquake.

ARIES Woman - TAURUS Man

"Get your things, Peter," she cried, shaking. "No," he answered.... '7 am not going with you."
"Yes, Peter."
"No."

A romantic involvement with a Taurus man is sure to be an educational experience for the Aries female. She thinks immovable objects (him) are simply things to kick aside, leap over or melt with the irresistible force of Mars heat (hers). Not this one.

She shoves - he sits. She pushes - he pouts. She demands - he digs in. Then, look out. The next step could be: she weeps - he walks. Away, that is for keeps. But Bulls and Rams can do other things together. Like, if she smiles - he'll soften. If she coaxes - he'll cuddle. If she bear-hugs - he'll beam. You'll notice it's always she who initiates the first move between them of any kind.

They may quarrel about money (her extravagance - his economy), or lock horns over the Aries need for excitement, and the Taurus need for peace and quiet. But with some effort at adjusting to each other's different metabolisms and personal mannerisms, this man and woman can find a rare and very cozy contentment together.

Since she demands, and requires (both), an abnormal amount of freedom, it's a fortunate thing the Bull is not unduly jealous. He's not jealous, but he is very possessive. The difference between these two qualities can be found in the dictionary - or through living with each other. She's jealous. He's possessive. They should carefully check Webster, and take it from there.

Yes, a Taurus man is stubborn, there's no denying this astrological fact. His sometimes blind, unreasonable bull-headedness can be unpleasantly aroused, if an Aries girl wants him to pick daisies with her when he wants to snooze - if she subjects him to her friends, when he wants to quietly read - (at other times, he'll be happy to entertain them all with his marvelous humor) - or if she insists on spending more than he earns, faster than he doesn't earn it. Yet a wellloved Bull will bear up under a great deal of "sound and fury, signifying nothing" but noise and nonsense, with tranquil aplomb. Normally, he'll take it with an unruffled good nature when she fights with his boss or his relatives, howls with a toothache, loses her engagement ring in the mashed potatoes at a restaurant, and doesn't realize it until after they've left, the place is closed and the garbage truck has already done its ruthless chop-chop thing.

A contented Taurus man will patiently put up with most Aries misguided missiles of enthusiasm unless he's pressed too hard, and too often. Then, he's likely to erupt into the infrequent but ever latent and smoldering Taurean anger. Rams who have never been exposed to the Bull's anger should not press their luck. And that happens to be a most serious astrological warning, in no way intended to be humorous.

If he's handled gently, with a decent amount of consideration for his own feelings, this man will stick by the girl Ram he loves through the darkest storms, like a steady rock of solid love, covering the miseries of her mistakes with a warm, protective blanket of sheer devotion. It's rather like coming home, all safe and secure, from a long journey through a frightening nightmare of rejection, where no one really cares or understands. He cares, even if he can't quite understand her temporary emotional traumas. And he'll usually back up his caring with a dependable bank account, and a leakless roof over her head (not to mention a well-stocked refrigerator), to the very best of his steady ability, while he builds slowly and surely for an even more secure, and even luxurious, future.

In the average love affair or marital relationship between the Bull and the Aries woman, she'll provide the ideas and the energy while he provides the stability and security. This applies to both the financial and the sexual aspects of their cooperative venture.

Although Taurus men are as practical about love as they are about everything else, they're also deeply affectionate, quietly romantic and deeply sentimental. The Aries woman who's grown into the mistaken impression that her usually undemonstrative Taurus lover or husband doesn't really love her anymore will never fail to be periodically surprised by receiving an extravagant Valentine, or other card, on some unexpected holiday, which expresses the shy Taurean feelings tenderly and eloquently, in the words of the verse.

Still, there could be some problems concerning the physical sharing of their love, after the first magnetic attraction of Male-Positive and Female-Negative polarity loses its novelty. Sex is, to the Aries woman, a form of release - mental, emotional, physical and spiritual. It's the visible manifestation of the Mars Faith and Strength combined, in a powerful urge of self-expression. To her, sexual activity justifies itself as a thrilling fantasy, which could, in some miraculous way, known only to her, make every dream she's ever dreamed come true. Sex is, to the Taurus man, a normal and natural function, for the purpose of achieving two very tangible and sensible results - the satisfaction of sensual and erotic flesh needs - and children. A family.

She's compelled to release the Mars sexual energy, even if it doesn't result in much of anything, except frustration - and imaginative romancing is absolutely essential to her. He doesn't see the sense in releasing any kind of energy unless its purpose is to produce something practical and useful - and the typical Taurean does not regard daydreams as either essential or productive. Consequently, the girl Ram may gradually and eventually become impatient with her Bull's desire for frankly sensual and somewhat unimaginative lovemaking and he may (at a relatively slower rate of speed) become honestly puzzled by the trip to the stars she feels must be synonymous with passion, in private, wistfully wishing he could take her there but sensing they might get lost, because he's uncertain of the route .... and after all, there's no map to guide him. A harmonious relationship between their mutual Suns, Moons and Ascendents will miracle away these differences in their natures, and allow the two of them to achieve a rich fulfillment through their sexual union, as well as in every other facet of their togetherness.

However, with a tense aspect between their natal Luminaries and/or Ascendents, it may be difficult for the Aries female to keep the Bull in her pasture, unless she makes a constant and conscious effort to please him, an unselfish urge that does not come naturally to the typical Arian. It takes mountains of hurt and resentment to make a Taurus man leave a woman he's once loved (or permit her to leave his possessive domain), but once he goes, he is gone. Permanently. A little tenderness today can prevent a lot of tears tomorrow.

Despite the many arguments these two are almost destined to have in the area of both mutual and individual finances, she'll soon learn a touching truth about her Taurus man's attitude toward money, which is so vastly different from her own (assuming they're both typical of their Sun Signs, and their birth charts don't confuse matters with a variety of planetary positions that create the exceptions that prove the astrological rules). In the beginning, she'll think he's an outright tightwad, and he'll think she's as improvident and careless with cash as they make females (he believes they're all made, more or less, in a similar extravagant mold). Gradually, however, his great Bull's heart will be moved, when he slowly comprehends that her carelessness with cash is nearly always motivated by impulsive generosity. He'll see that, although she spends a good deal of money on herself (Aries represents the first astrological house; therefore, all Rams are exceptionally concerned with their physical appearance), she spends even more through her gestures of giving, much in the sense that a child gives, with a feeling of sheer delight in pleasing others and receiving the reward of their happy smiles. He'll probably relax his attitude somewhat then, regarding his initial disapproval of her wild and carefree spending. In fact, after their relationship has had time to solidify into a permanent pattern, her spontaneous generosity may even cause him to love her more.

At the same time he's learning to adapt to her financial looseness, even affectionately, she will be discovering that he's not such a miser as she first thought him to be. She'll realize that his caution stems from his uncontrollable need to be sure of tomorrow's security, his deep-seated fear of being suddenly thrown out into the street and forced to rely upon the charity of others or the government, which would kill his proud spirit of self-sufficiency. And she'll see that, once her stubborn, but kind-hearted, steadfast and loyal Bull knows their future is reasonably insured (not excessively, as is the case with the typical Crab or Goat), he's genuinely generous. Barring an afflicted Moon or Ascendent in Earth or Water elements, he'll be as tickled as she to give gifts to their friends and families, and lend money to those who need it, without pressing them for repayment - as long as his basic nest egg for tomorrow is left untouched, the amount of which, of course, varies with each individual Bull. But the typical Taurus male won't take huge chances with his security. If his Aries woman tries to convince him that they should move into a better apartment or house, and trust a promise someone made to them regarding future paychecks, commissions or bonuses, to make up the difference in rent or mortgage payments, she's engaged in a futile endeavor. The Bull won't move an inch until he's sure he can handle the extra burden. To Taurus there's never been a promise since the world began that's been made of anything but talk and thin air - both materials he's found to be totally unreliable for the purpose of building anything concrete and lasting. Yet, when push comes to shove (an excellent descriptive phrase to use with Taurus) this man will share half of whatever he has with anyone whose real need he's been made aware of, most especially his family, friends..........and the woman he loves.

There may be times when the Bull's stubbornness seems like the coldest kind of cruelty to an Aries girl. For example, he may say something unkind to her in public, when she's been frisking too much for his taste and acting up in general, and it will cut her to the quick. She'll try to force him to apologize, openly or at least to admit he didn't mean it (which he didn't, and she knows it), while he sullenly refuses to grant her the verbal solace and reassurance she's seeking (or, rather, demanding). As she continues first to command, then finally to plead with him to retract his statement, he'll grow even more silent and removed, like a chunk of marble, unseeing, unhearing, unfeeling - apparently.

Then she'll impulsively run out, angrily weeping, into the night. He's the coldest, cruelest man she's ever known, and it's all over between them. He can't do that to her. A few blocks down the street (maybe twenty or more, depending on the extent of the adrenalin she was generating when she stormed out of the place where she left him) - she sees a coffee shop, and wanders inside, to sit by herself, crying all over her donuts, and fiercely hating him until their favorite song hits her ears, from the ceiling speakers, reminding her of what she's lost by walking out on him. So, she pays her check, leaves hastily and ends up standing on a street corner, forlorn and alone, trying to hail a taxi to take her home - sorry, at last - and now really frightened. It's late, there are no taxis anywhere, and she has to walk home, giving her time to think over a lot of things as she hurries down streets that seem unusually quiet and deserted.

But... who is that there in the shadows, leaning calmly against the building across the way, waiting patiently for her? It's him. He's still there. She feels a surge of happiness as she runs across the street into his safe arms. He didn't go away and leave her after all. It's all right again. No, he didn't go away - this time. He'll probably still be there, patiently waiting for her after the next fiery, emotional, farewell scene too. But, someday ……….

If she's wise, she'll count her blessings before it's too late.

TAURUS MAN AND ARIES WOMAN LOVE COMPATIBILITY

The ARIES - TAURUS Relationship

Above, where all had been so still, the air was rent with

shrieks and the clash of steel. Below, there was dead

silence.

Because Rams and Bulls each have tough horns, the determination of Aries and the stubbornness of Taurus might seem to be identical traits. They are not, and numerous incidents will occur between the two of them to make the distinction clear.

For example, an Aries parent wants a Taurus child to eat, and emphasizes it with a Martian command like: "You swallow every bite of that Wheat Germ and pick up your spoon this second, do you hear me?" That's determination.

The Taurus child sits quietly, not moving a muscle, gazes back steadily and says, "No." That's stubbornness. An Aries boss wants a Taurean employee to work on his or her day off and states firmly, "I need you on Saturday, and it may take all day, so cancel any other plans you have." That's determination. The Taurus employee calmly answers, "I'm busy Saturday. Get someone else." That's stubbornness.

After a few encounters, the difference between the two traits will become evident. Determination initiates. Stubbornness reacts. The first is a Positive action. The second is Negative re-action. Therefore, in any clash between Aries and Taurus, the Ram starts it and the Bull finishes it. It's important to remember that. Taurus won't forget it. Taurus doesn't forget anything.

Although Aries people get accused of running around burning their bridges behind them, and shooting off sparks in reckless abandon, they have their gentle moments too. Taurus people get accused of always pouting and brooding like dull globs of earth, ready to smother Arian enthusiasms in negative silence. But Bulls have their imaginative moments too, when it suits them, and they possess a thoughtful wisdom and wonderfully warm sense of humor behind that pragmatic exterior. Still, the essential differences between these two Sun Signs must be faced.

Rams are inclined to be aggressive, impulsive, bossy, extravagant, talkative and optimistic. They pursue excitement and quick results - and they require a dash of magic to make life interesting.
Bulls are inclined to be reserved, practical, usually sparing with words and self-sufficient, though somewhat pessimistic. They pursue stability, solitude and sure things - and they require lots of rest and tranquility to make life bearable.

You can see right away that these people are not the Bobbsey Twins. Their inner motivations, not to mention their outward actions, tend to wander in divergent directions. However, sometimes it's beneficial to knock around with someone who possesses the qualities you lack. Because this is a 2-12 Sun Sign Pattern association, the Taurean is more apt to be tolerant and sympathetic toward the Ram, and the Aries will try to imitate the Bull's placid stability. After all, placid stability is more or less synonymous with strength, and Aries people will try anything - even if it's against their natures - to gain more strength. Weakness is a four letter word to both the Ram and the Bull.

Although Bulls are equally fond of strength they're temporarily (until their true ruler, PAN-HORUS, * is "discovered" and named) ruled by Venus, which tempers the whole thing somewhat, so they're not as intense about proving it or flaunting it as the Mars-ruled Arian. Taureans understand the compulsion behind Aries courage and flashing independence, since every Sun Sign carries the seeds or karmic memory of the qualities of the sign immediately preceding it in the zodiac, as with every 2-12 Pattern. But because the Bull has already been there, in an unconscious sense, he's also aware of the pitfalls involved in throwing caution to the four winds. The Taurus goal of financial security, however, can often be obtained through cooperation with the tireless drive and energy of the Mars person, and Taureans instinctively know this, which is one reason why they're attracted to Aries in the first place.

As for the Ram, he or she secretly envies the Taurus reserve and sensible outlook, and could profit immensely from being exposed to the Bull's realistic approach to life. Every Sun Sign unconsciously senses there are lessons to be learned from the sign immediately following or ahead of it in the zodiac, in a 212 vibration. This is why Aries feels drawn by the dependability of Taurus, as something tangible to lean on when that Mars rashness brings on a shower of trouble.

* The approximate place of an extra-Plutonian planet (Pan) was officially announced by Dr. C. Muses in 1965, through the publication La ricerca scientifica (p. 200) published at Rome by the National Research Council of Italy. Pan was calculated to be at 355° celestial longitude (i.e. 25° Pisces), with about nine degrees of south declination, on January 1,1979, and due to enter Aries in 1984. Muses notes that the astronomer W. H. Pickering at his observatory in Jamaica during the first half of this century had previously computed, from extensive data on cometary perturbations, the existence of a planet with a period of 333 years. Muses' calculations yield a distance of 48.4 astronomical units from the sun, which agrees with Pickering's period by Kepler's third law. Astrologically, the two meanings of this planet are expressed by Pan, ruler of chthonic earth forces and by Horus, restorer of the immortal body in Egyptian tradition. In this connection, Dr. Muses drew my attention to the startling depictions in the papyri of Pa-di-Amon, Khonsu-Renap, TaShed-Khonsu, and Amon-m-Set in the Cairo Museum, and also on the sarcophagus of Hent-Taui in the Metropolitan Museum, New York City.

If a free flow of give-and-take can be established between the Bull and the Ram, their natures could blend in such a way that each could attain with the other, through their association, what it would be difficult to realize alone. The danger inherent in the mixing of their Mars-Venus auras is that the Ram, on occasion, may exasperate the Bull beyond his (or her) great limits of endurance, until the Taurean finally makes up that very stubborn Bull mind, after long deliberation, that it's no longer worth the effort. Conversely, there's always the possibility that the Bull may so frequently refuse to catch fire from the Ram's many flaming ideas, sparks of ideals and dreams, that the Aries person will eventually leave in desperation, to avoid depression - which no Mars-ruled man, woman or child can tolerate for long periods of time, without relief.

The Ram may be puzzled, and frequently frustrated, by the Bull's periodic spells of melancholy and introversion, even though it's relieved by lots of fun and giggles and from time to time may coax the Bull into parties and social activities, which, if it's not overdone, may help to balance the Taurean's instinctive "loner instinct" - a trait best not overemphasized. Encouraging the Bull of either sex, or any age, to express the innate Taurus love of form and color in music or art - or suggesting ways to retreat to the fields, woods and hills (all Bulls have an intense, even if buried, love of Nature) - are all ways the Aries person can use to coax Taurus into more placidity and peace.

The major mistake made by most Arians with a Taurus friend, relative, business associate, lover or mate, is to press the Bull into a decision. It will never work. Never. The Bull must decide in his (or her) own time. Demanding, pushing and insisting (the typical Mars strategy, when Aries desires are blocked) will only make Taurus more unwilling to budge, often causing these people to become totally uncommunicative. If Taurus believes that the suggestion is valid and sensible, he (or she) will consider it, and finally say "okay." Until then - and otherwise - no power on Earth can force the situation prematurely. That's the way it is, and no one, not even a fiery Ram, is going to change it.

If the Bull can learn, as they say out West, to ride "loose in the saddle" with the Ram, and not always expect the Aries person to be practical, the association will also be smoother. Rams must be allowed to express themselves through their own Mars pattern, which must contain a certain amount of violent ups and downs, in order to eventually learn that impulsive, rash behavior usually brings regret. The Aries person will undoubtedly benefit from the nearness of a more stable Taurean to lean on when things go wrong - and he (or she) will accept advice with surprising docility from the Bull, as long as it's tempered with tenderness, and isn't offered so frequently or dogmatically as to make the Ram feel "fenced in."

Aries people of all sizes, shapes, ages and sexes must be allowed to forge ahead without undue restriction, or too much negative disapproval. Actually, silent disapproval disturbs the bright, hopeful Aries spirit even more than spoken disapproval. It seems, somehow, to the direct Ram, more ominous and threatening - and just plain "scary." Remember, Aries is the symbolic newborn Infant, just as Taurus is the symbolic older baby. (See the "The Twelve Mysteries of Love" in the front of this book.) If the Ram's spontaneous enthusiasms are constantly buried beneath a ton of earthy Taurean "don'ts," he-she may become a frustrated Sheep - a Ram whose ego has been cruelly nipped in the bud of blossoming. The Arian needs to be cautioned against all that brimming-over excitement, now and then, but cautioned lightly, and with much gentleness.

Aries discovers the new country, whether it's geographical - or a mental continent. With the direct penetration of Mars to the core of any situation, the Ram leads and pioneers both the land - and innovative ideas. Then the Bull can enter into his or her own natural activity of building, of turning the country or idea Aries has discovered and pioneered, into a thriving community - or a concept that becomes practical and useful.

All human relationships - Life itself - must have, for Taurus, a clear purpose, and a definite function. Lacking a defined goal of usefulness, in the midst of scattered thoughts, and aimless activities, the Bull becomes confused, and finally withdraws. He (or she) learns only through the senses and through experience, and only by exercising a Fixity of intention can this Fixed Sun Sign remain true to himself - or herself. To Taurus, every thing, and every person, has a proper place, and should stay there, serving its purpose, never pretending to be something it's not. Aries behaves and dreams in a straight line, always going forward, ignoring the fact that both ends of that straight line are wide open to the winds of fate, whereas Taurus behaves and dreams in a circle, which encompasses lessons of the past and careful plans for the future, leaving no opening for failure due to irresponsible action.

The Ram can help the Bull break open that circle to let in the light of optimism and new ideas - and the Bull can assist the Ram to bend the direct Mars straight-line of activity and feeling into at least a semicircle shape, to help close out some of the inevitable disappointments that will be met throughout the eventful, Aries roller coaster existence. It's a strange and lovely thing that music, in any form, will almost always serve to build a bridge of understanding between Aries and Taurus and heal some of the hurt caused by each other's personality differences, which can be vast.

Since the Sun is exalted in Aries, these people frequently feel that victory has been won even before the battle. Every Ram feels an identification with Birth, Spring and the ecstasy of Easter - the resurrection. It's the reason for that soul's existence - the miracle he (or she) possesses to innocently offer other Sun Signs - the way Aries people serve both mankind and their true, inner self. Aries believes in the triumph of Life over Death, of Faith over Doubt. However, behind his (or her) bravado lurks the peculiar emotional insecurity of the Ram (those karmic memory seeds from Pisces, just behind Aries, on the astrological circle) - and the attempts of an Earth Sign to hold him (or her) back in any way only result in an increase of this hidden vulnerability. Then, an Aries person will either suddenly and violently shatter all ties with the smothering Taurean - or submit, and fall into a sad neurosis, completely unnatural to the Mars Life Force.

For the reason that the combining of Mars determination with Taurus willfulness creates an immense amount of sheer power, ancient astrologers warned that a blend of the Aries-Taurus qualities, if not carefully balanced, can result in great cruelty. Adolph Hitler's severely afflicted Taurus Sun and Aries Ascendent (plus other negative natal aspects) is the classic example of this warning ignored. It can occur within the birth chart of one individual - or become manifest through an association between a Ram and a Bull, depending always on the planetary positions of both at birth. The tendency may, of course, be overcome, through enlightenment, and many Rams and Bulls produce an equally powerful alchemy of kindness and beneficence via their association. But there are, unfortunately, for example, some Aries and Taurus people who channel such negativity by becoming "hunters-for-sport," expressing the dark side of Aries courage and Taurus strength in a cruel manner, which causes them to be, instead, if they only comprehended it - cowardly - in the worst sort of way. Shooting a wild animal in cold blood, including deer, rabbits, ducks, pheasants and all our feathered friends in the sky - then carrying the silent corpse through town, as a trophy of macho, is a pathetic kind of cowardice in its lowest form - not the demonstration of "manhood" or "womanhood" some believe it to be.

If the Sun and Moon in the birth charts of the Ram and the Bull are inharmoniously aspected, in mutual Luminary relation to each other, the danger of cruelty must be guarded against carefully. However, when the natal Sun of the Ram is beneficently aspected to the natal Moon of the Bull (or vice versa) and if their mutual Ascendents are also harmonious, in a triple exchanged aspect, Taurus can help Aries soar to the heights of happiness and serendipity by supporting the Ram's emotional balloon flights of fancy with warm, kindly patience (also by providing a comforting, soft patch of Earth to fall on when the string breaks). And the Ram can lead Taurus to the higher slopes of the imagination, up where the windswept view of the future is as huge and grand as the Bull's own sturdy dreams.

ARIES Woman - ARIES Man

So uproariously gay was the dance, and how they buffeted

each other on the bed and out of it! It was a pillow fight

rather than a dance, and when it was finished, the pillows

insisted on one bout more ...

As fiercely independent, bright and clever as the Aries girl is, the Aries man is even more so - in his own opinion. And he'll demand recognition of it eventually, no matter how he fools her, and himself, in the beginning. From the very first time she pushes through a door ahead of him, he'll feel the faint stirring of a desire to teach her that, in any tangle between a girl and a boy Ram, the male of the Sun Sign will win. He should decide to thus subdue her early in the game, or say goodbye. There may be a few noisy, tearful skirmishes before she catches on, but she'll blossom beautifully when she's allowed - no, forced - to become a woman.

However, demanding that she drop her career or job to take up the full-time job of waiting on his whims is not the most ideal way to unfold her womanhood, and establish his manhood. There are other ways. Unless she willingly sacrifices her "pie-them" occupation to warm his slippers, or join him in his personal goals, forgetting her own (which sometimes happens), it's best for him to let her stay out there where it's all happening. It would also be a wise mutual decision to let it be his income that pays the rent or mortgage, food and utilities bills. Her money can provide the extra things they'll need to satisfy the extravagant impulses they both frequently feel. That way, the male Aries will be solidly entrenched in the image of the masculine side of the team, and it's important to get that straight, right at the start.

I mean, let it be plainly understood that he is MAN and she is WOMAN. There will be lots of opportunities to wonder about the division of actual control in the relationship, and there's no sense adding to this by a confusion of sexual male-female roles.

The masculinity challenge of the Mars female begins the day she first zings the male Ram of her choice in the heart with her sparkling hopes and excitements, so much like his own, and will follow him through all sorts of living arrangements, including temporary geographical separation. She may try to dominate him by telephone, telegram or letter, if he's not within touching distance. Since the Aries man knows that no one has successfully dominated him from the time he was born, he might feel like calling it quits when he feels the first tug-of-war from an Aries girl, but he'd be smarter to curb his annoyance, and try to tame her instead.

Every Aries woman has a deep, hidden desire to be protected and defended by her man. In her private daydreams she is always the lovely, gentle Guinevere, and he is the kind, tender, strong Lancelot - or he'd better be if he doesn't want his Guinevere to become a frustrated Virginia Woolf, which is a very possible and most undesirable result when a man either leans too far backward with her, in an attempt to please - or leans too far forward, in an attempt to take charge. The former probably won't occur often, because leaning over backward is not a normal position or direction for the typical male Ram. Leaning too far forward is more likely. But he should understand that her Guinevere wish to be conquered is purely romantic and sexual. It has little or nothing to do with the personality, or other areas of her life. His masculine Mars macho that keeps her starry-eyed and emotionally fulfilled on a stroll along the beach, or in the privacy of the bedroom, won't normally be welcomed regarding activities separated from romance. She draws a sharp line between submitting romantically and submitting in other ways, and it's best for him to realize this if he wants to keep her. Expecting this lady to keep his curfews or follow his orders is unwise, but ignoring her is downright dangerous. He's capable of making all these mistakes until he learns she'll neither toe the line nor be brought to heel by the dictator treatment, because she's cut from the same mold as he - which was, of course, thrown away after the Aries Sun Sign was made. That's how Rams believe that the old saying got started "They threw away the mold when they made you, baby." They sure did. (Actually, it refers to the ancient potter's mold, but it fits the Aries situation quite aptly.)

The first thing the Aries girl will notice about her male counterpart is that he's even more bossy, belligerent and bellicose than she is. Obviously - and also fortunately. If she's puzzled by the Yin and the Yang of it, a brief meditation on her all-time-favorite faerie story might cause her to experience the dawn of comprehension.

This woman never failed to cry, as a child, when she read about the Prince charging bravely into the woods to find his Princess and awaken her from her lonely slumber with the kiss of True Love. (Aries females invariably get all soft and squishy inside at the mere thought of True Love, their idealism in affairs of the heart being as eternal as Spring itself.) But really now, dear Aries girl, when you're honest with yourself, would it all have been quite so magical if the fiery, courageous Princess had come charging bravely into the woods on her horse to claim her Prince and rescue him from the Wicked Witch? The same meditation should be practiced on all the other faerie tales she still believes in, and dreams of every fortnight or so. Imagine dainty Cinderella, red-faced, puffing and perspiring, as she tried to shove a glass Hush-Puppy on her Prince's foot, to see if it fitted him. Mother Nature knows what she's doing. The Aries man-woman relationship will stand a better chance of success if she permits him to steal her Mars thunder. It somehow sounds better coming from him - if he doesn't carry it too far. Besides, since she's no stranger to toughness herself, she knows very well, if she'll stop to ponder it, that his tough Aries facade is only a cover for his quivering Aries idealism, his desperate inner longing to be needed - and noticed.

All right, so she should notice him as he sits there astride his white horse, shooting off all that Aries bossiness to disguise his secret fear that no one will ever love him as much as he knows he needs to be loved (which is considerable) - unless he demands it. This man can be very tender and gentle, for all his brash independence, and he's an expert at pretending he's not hurt when he's actually been deeply wounded. She knows how that is. Since they're both aware of all these Mars secrets about each other, you'd think they would cool the fireworks, but it usually takes more than one painful lesson to teach them the futility of constant ego challenges. Often, the ultimate lesson is the frightening experience of nearly losing each other, then realizing at the last minute, before the ultimate and final disaster - like the old silent films Perils of Pauline serial - that meeting Force with Force never works.

If she'll do all her Mars charging at her man's enemies, instead of at him, he'll adore her for it, and in return he'll give her every bit as much loyalty as she gives him. That's certainly a fair trade. But somebody has to start it.

It may seem at first that these two are well mated sexually, since they both require essentially the same thing of love - that it be the kind of physical-emotional blending poets write about as the epitome of the soul-mate theory, which nearly every Arian believes in as absolute romantic dogma. Whether they use the term "soul-mate" itself or not, Rams never doubt, when they love, that their union was not only Made In Heaven, but also made to last throughout a lifetime - and beyond. However, before this potential peak of harmony becomes a reality, a serious obstacle must be overcome - the instinctive, although almost always unintentional, selfishness of this Sun Sign.

Now, everything everybody wants to know about sex (whether he - or she - has been afraid to ask or not) is based on either deliberate or non-deliberate selfishness, using the partner for self-gratification. Not how can I bring him (or her) more fulfillment, but how can I be more fulfilled? Sex-sex-sex. Doctors David Reuben, Masters and Johnson, Kinsey and Freud, have all explained it, tested it, researched it, analyzed it, observed it, photographed it, taped it, listened to it, written about it - just about everything but demonstrated it in public auditoriums. (Too much competition from stage, film and magazines.) But most men and women still haven't received the message.

It might be a good idea for these Mars lovers to buy one of those large posters, showing a couple walking, blissfully hand-in-hand, toward the mountains, the ocean or the cornfields, gazing into each other's eyes ... with the inscription at the bottom: LOVE BEGINS WHEN THE NEEDS OF SOMEONE ELSE BECOME MORE IMPORTANT THAN YOUR OWN.... and nail it firmly near their bed, right next to the tapestry depicting THE WEDDING OF ROMEO AND JULIET, which always hangs in spirit, if not in actuality, on the wall of every Aries bedroom. Romeo and Juliet were also soul-mates, you see but they were unselfish. It's not necessary for the Aries man and woman to end their honeymoon with a double suicide scene in order to prove unselfishness. A little thoughtful consideration on both sides will suffice.

When these traces of infantile selfishness have been erased by tenderness, the sexual sharing of love between these two can be an ecstatic exchange. With Aries, sex is composed of strange contradictions, barely comprehended, causing their mating to be an incredible combination of explosive desire, direct and penetrating, fiery and uncontrolled.... and haunting fragments of flowers in the rain, fresh breezes and glittering snow diamonds. That's what happens when the powerful thrust of Mars is gentled by being expressed through the naivete and starry wonder of the symbolic Aries Infant. It creates a rare and startling blend of abandoned, stormy emotion - and the peace of a still and silent dawn. At once primitive - and poetic. The alchemy of equal parts of searing passion and fragile innocence is very nearly a holy thing. Obviously, then, at its very best, the sexual union between two Rams can be an experience to cherish. Even at its worst, it will be interesting.

What will she do if he flirts with other girls? Well, what would he do if she flirts with other men? Same thing. An emotional explosion of the hydrogen bomb magnitude - which is just as foolish and suicidal to love as the actual hydrogen bomb is to our planet. Each Ram will let the other know unmistakably that iron bars on individual freedom will not be tolerated. But it's a one-sided freedom, since each of them refuses to be strangled by jealousy, while at the same time displaying intense jealousy of the other. Aries people do tend to want to have their cake and eat it, and it may take several noisy, emotional scenes to teach them that they can't have it both ways. They'll have to learn that love's not a game to be won, a battle to be fought or even a prize to be won. It's a gift - to be given. Rams will demand a lot of things from life, and get them. But no one, not even an Aries, can demand love.

He'll make it clear that she should not dare to be jealous of him, but she had better not even look at another man. She'll make it just as clear that he's not to smother her with jealousy, but at the same time, he d better not be caught glancing with the slightest flicker of interest at another woman.

You know what that is? It's selfish. If you're an Aries, you may not have thought about it like that, but think about it. Rams can even become jealous if they notice a smile on the loved one's face in sleep. Who is he (or she) dreaming about? And don't believe that very question hasn't been asked by lots of Aries couples in the morning. "Well, you must have had pleasant dreams last night. Were you meeting your old boy friend in your astral body?" And don't think the answer hasn't been: "It's none of your business what I dream. Besides, I noticed you weren't so anxious to wake up when I kissed you Good Morning just now. Were you lying there, half awake, practicing mental telepathy with that girl you flirted with at the supermarket last week?"

There are variations of dialogue, but such confrontations are a definite possibility when two Rams have promised to love, honor and cherish - but never to obey! The solution is for these two to practice their own telepathic communication, and to reassure each other of their undying devotion constantly, because the symbolic Infant's subconscious fear of losing love lies at the bottom of all Aries jealousy, incongruous as it may seem, as it struggles with the conscious Mars urge for personal independence. If he forgets to call to say he'll be later for dinner, who better than she should understand his need to follow a sudden impulse without first holding a committee meeting?

Should the winds of April call him away from the hearth, she may be simultaneously called to follow her own skylark cadenza, and when they return to each other, they can exchange magical tales of the wonders they nearly touched, the miracles they almost caught. An Aries man who's out there rushing after some new, exciting goal he just discovered is simply being true to himself, and the Aries woman who faces the truth must admit she couldn't really love a man who wasn't true to himself. The new, exciting goal needn't be a woman. Not unless it becomes a woman through her unfounded jealousy. If she trusts him completely, she probably won't regret it, because an Aries man, more so than any other Sun Sign male, will usually live up to exactly what's expected of him. And that works in reverse too. What's sauce for the goose is surely sauce for the gander between these lovers.

A couple of years ago I received a letter from an Aries woman married to an Aries man. They have three children, one Gemini and two Taureans. She described so well the happiness that can result from a double 1-1 Sun Sign vibration (with some effort) that I'm going to quote part of her letter here. She wrote, in part: "... and when I read aloud the last paragraph of the Aries woman section, in your book Sun Signs, to my also Aries husband - the part that says, 'She may be a little impulsive, bossy and independent, but you can't have everything' - he asked, 'What else would a man want?' My Aries husband understands me, and he'll always be able to hold me, even though I sometimes threaten to leave him when our Ram's horns clash. It's because, as your book says when I 'come running into his arms, my world all dark and dismal' - he holds me close, and comforts me, and would never, never say - 'What did you do to deserve it?' - like that darned Libra man you wrote about in Sun Signs! I never realized before just how important that is to me."

So, you see, an Aries-Aries relationship can work. And the two of them needn't sacrifice their Mars courage, initiative or independence. The Aries woman who wrote that letter ended it with a postscript: "I have a tremendous urge to tell you to add Ayn Rand to your list of prominent Aquarians. She fits it like a glove. But of course, you know I wouldn't sign off this letter without at least one suggestion on how to run your business."

An Aries to the end she was, but a girl Ram who's learned to admit her Mars need to take the lead, and can laugh about it, instead of either denying it or being ashamed of it - has learned an important lesson. You must love yourself (which requires both honesty and humor) before anyone else can love you. I'm sorry to say I've lost that lady Ram's name and address, since I typed out the excerpt from her letter, and if she reads this, I hope she writes again, so I can answer a vital question she asked.

If the Aries man and his Aries woman each practice the Golden Rule, and do unto one another as they would have the other do unto them, assuming their mutual Sun-Moon aspects are not discordant, their relationship will bring to them both the reward of emotional maturity, plus the best of all possible gifts the freedom to be completely themselves with one another, with no fear of rejection.

When they quarrel, he may threaten to leave her in the heat of the moment, but he probably won't. Not for keeps anyway. Once he's loved an Aries woman, all other girls will seem boring. (Restful, perhaps, by comparison, but boring.)

She feels the same way about him when she threatens to leave and doesn't mean it. But she should try to remember that he can chop wood, blast through granite mountains, pilot planes, build houses, govern a city, state or nation, change tires, practice medicine or law, produce and direct films, operate a tractor, and shovel snow - at least as well as she can. It may no longer be true that a woman's place is in the home. But it will be eternally true that a woman's place is inside her man's heart.

The ARIES - ARIES Relationship

ARIES

Fire - Cardinal - Positive

Ruled by Mars

Symbol: The Ram

Day Forces – Masculine

The ARIES - ARIES Relationship

Then rather curiously they both snapped out the same remark:

"Shut up!" "

Shut up!"

I wonder is it proper and dignified for an Aries person like myself to analyze the 1-1 Sun Sign vibrational influence between two Rams - to describe what it's like when they blend their compatible but equally combustible natures, as friends, neighbors, relatives, business associates, lovers or mates? Let me consider it for a moment. All right, I've considered it. Of course it's proper. Who's better qualified? No one. As for being dignified, receiving a Dignity Achievement Award has never been my chief goal in life. That settles that. So let's get on with it. I can't stand waiting around for things to happen, can you?

First, we should probably discuss the number of mistakes it's possible for two Rams to make, in a close association. Gigantic. Simply gigantic. Still, the number of successes can also be overwhelming - and since Rams are so frequently compelled to impulsively jump into puddles head first (Aries always leads with the head), it won't be so lonesome being stuck upside down in the mud, with a kindred soul for company.

When these two strong egos first mix their personal auras, clear the field, and count down for the blast-off, which is usually a surge of spontaneous empathy. It's really such a joy to discover a positive, enthusiastic, and open personality, after being stuck with all those squeamish squares, and boring wet blankets - the secretive, stingy ones, and especially those cold, unapproachable people who freeze you, when all you're trying to do is be friendly. No wonder there's such an instant rush of mutual admiration! Each Ram will find it a blessed relief that the other one isn't all stuffy about things like extravagance, impulsive behavior, rash speech, and being late for appointments. Not only that, now there's someone who will go to the dentist with them, and not think they're "sissy."

Most Arians hate two things equally: (a) going to the dentist - and (b) having someone take their picture "candidly" or otherwise. Sitting still and posing while the photographer adjusts lights in a studio is almost as bad as submitting to a molar tooth extraction or root canal work, because it gives you all that time to decide you're ugly, which is equally as grinding a pain to the self-conscious Rams, who are ultra-concerned and somewhat vain about how they look. (Astrologically, Aries rules the physical appearance.) The Ram's fear of the dentist is in no way, however, a reflection on Aries courage. Mars supplies these people with all the courage they need, and an extra helping of it anytime they ask, even on very short notice. Their dread of the dental drill is an isolated hang-up, and mustn't be construed to mean that Rams are cowards. They simply don't like anyone messing around with their heads. That normally includes drugs. It definitely includes eyes, ears, nose and mouth - also the brain - which means don't mess with their opinions either.

Most Aries females, for instance, dislike going to beauty parlors. Beauticians are so bossy, and they simply will not comb your hair the way you tell them, or part it where you order them to part it. After all, it's not their hair, it's your hair, but give them an inch, and they'll snip off four. The Aries woman may impulsively, to her later regret, cut her own hair drastically too short, or crooked - but let someone else turn her into a shorn lamb, and she'll be furious. As furious as she'd be with herself. (Aries is not at all selective about anger.) Girl Rams would rather go to the extra trouble of washing their hair at home than suffer a hair stylist who thinks he (or she) owns their heads. The Aries sensitivity related to anything connected with the head area is really pronounced. You'd be sensitive about your head, too, if you had a dozen or so scars scattered around on your head and face you began collecting in childhood, from crashing into things (and people) head first.

As for the "extra trouble" of doing something themselves, that's no large thing. Rams almost never mind going to "extra trouble" for themselves, or for others. When it's for others, the extra trouble stems from the generous impulse of the Mars-ruled souls to give more than may be needed of their time, money, love, loyalty, and everything else. When it comes to themselves, they tend to bring on the extra trouble by creating problems where none would exist if the situation were left alone. "Leaving well enough alone" seems like silly advice to a Ram. Why should anyone be satisfied with "well enough"? What kind of a goal is that when, with a little effort, well enough can be made better? (Aries never theorizes that well enough might possibly be made worse.)

Unless one or both Rams have a Capricorn, Taurus or Cancer Moon Sign or Ascendent, it will probably be easy for them to borrow money from each other, and neither will be likely to create a fuss about being paid back promptly which is another area of empathy between them. These two are straightforward about everything, including money. It never occurs to them to be deceptive. Actually, they don't know how.

Now and then, they may overestimate their ability to pay, or even forget a debt, because of being caught up in something new that's so exciting it consumes their entire attention, but they are not dishonest, and absolutely never sneaky. Nothing both hurts and angers a Ram more than to be unjustly mistrusted or suspected. It would mortify the typical Aries man or woman to let down anyone to whom either gave his word, and this includes creditors. Arians may be either forgetful or delinquent, but eventually they'll pay everything they owe in full, often more than they owe - because Rams are not unduly suspicious, or cautious, about spending, so it's easy for them to be oversold and overcharged. No matter. The Mars idea about money is that when it disappears, more will soon manifest, in one way or another. (Does the Infant fret and worry about where the next dry diaper or bottle of milk will come from? Certainly not. It will magically appear when needed. Everybody knows that!) Each Aries person in this 1-1 Sun Sign Pattern association will be touchingly grateful for the trust of the other. Not only will two Rams usually instinctively trust one another, they won't take advantage of one another, and considering the way the rest of the world usually treats both of them, this can be a warm and wonderful feeling.

It's all a merry-go-round of happiness between Aries and Aries in the beginning, but after the pink cotton candy melts, there may be moments of disillusion. You know what happens when Fire meets Fire? Higher and hotter flames. That should indicate the possible ramifications of an association between two wild and woolly Rams, whether it's business, romantic, friendly or otherwise. It could be otherwise, if they insist on butting away at the impossible task of trying to break each other's vulnerable yet indomitable and unconquerable spirit.

Scattered among the more typical extroverted Arians, are the not as common, Sheep-type Aries people, whose Mars egos have been, very sadly, crushed in childhood, and who therefore control their natural exuberance behind a most unnatural introversion. If the two Aries people who are involved with one another belong to this group, they may not appear, on the surface, to be capable of arousing anger in each other, but appearances are deceptive. At some time, in some way, their horns are sure to lock.

When Mars clashes with Mars, the result can be full-scale war, with all flags flapping, bravely and colorfully. Occasional flare-ups are bound to occur when these two are thrown into close, daily proximity, without the relief of some separateness in their association. But there will also be some glorious Highs to offset these Lows.

Most of the time, the direct, forceful manner of Mars will create a wave of sympathy between two Aries people. It's when their mutual need for ego trips overlaps that they can expect the fireworks. Here's a possible solution to that problem: One Ram is permitted to have everything his way on Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays. The other Ram gets to be Big Boss on Sundays, Tuesdays and Thursdays. Saturdays, they can just fight it out, letting the Ram with the toughest horns win - and bind up the loser's wounds with typical Aries instant contriteness and warm generosity. It's a formula that should be successful in most cases, since neither Aries will mind taking a periodic fling at playing second glockenspiel, knowing that he - or she - will be allowed to be conductor again the next day.

It's been said that Aries people have a way about them. They do. Their own way. Yet, despite that sometimes antagonistic Martian exterior, they'll sense each other's desperate need to be appreciated and liked. When they get together, they may struggle for leadership, but the experience will supply some well-needed lessons. The shock of living with someone - or being around someone - as innocently thoughtless, selfish and aggressive as one's self, is sure to soften any battering Ram, although there may be a few scars to show for the lessons in living thus mastered. Aries hearts always carry more scars than the Rams ever show, or openly discuss.

It will be necessary for both of them to realize that Aries is the Infant of the zodiac, symbolizing the dawn of the personality awareness, or Sunrise. Aries represents the East, the Day Forces - which is why most of them fight sleep, tranquility, rest and resignation to Fate with such vigor. The negative intrusion of any degree of criticism or pessimism darkens a Ram's "Easter" horizon, and considerably dampens the Aries spirit, especially when the blow to innocence and Sunrise faith is delivered forcefully from another Ram. Yet, temporary resentment seldom remains long enough to become permanent bitterness, because Aries possesses a childlike faith that a quarrel can somehow be made up, a relationship can be repaired each time it's broken. It's unthinkable to a Ram that any given situation is anything but the way he (or she) sees it at the time. Nevertheless, no one (except Sag and Gemini) can switch a mistaken viewpoint more swiftly, or bury yesterday's unhappiness and hurt more completely, than an Aries man, woman or child who is handled gently. To a Ram of either sex, or any chronological age (barring a more pessimistic Moon Sign and/or Ascendent), each Sunrise brings a new covenant of resurrection - the resurrection of a shattered dream, idea, goal or friendship. Why look backward, or worry about what's past, and couldn't be helped, when today is so full of promise?

A few sentences back, you'll notice the phrase "who is handled gently" in italics. The trouble is, although Rams need to be handled gently themselves, they aren't inclined to handle each other (or anyone else) gently. Aries people can't seem to get the hang of the Golden Rule. They comprehend, even personify, its generosity and forgiveness, but they can't quite interpret what it means to treat others as tenderly as they need to be treated. They will not be led by the nose, pushed or forced by anyone, including those who are clearly stronger than they are, and certainly not by each other. (A typical Aries person would literally stand before a criminal who pointed a loaded gun in his - or her - direction, and fearlessly talk back.) Rams expect their own wishes to be granted, their own orders obeyed without question, as quickly as possible (unless there's a softening influence of several Pisces or Libra planets in the horoscope). It's the instinctive Mars urge to rebel. The drive to initiate and to lead is so strong in some Mars-ruled men, women and children that even friendly suggestion is sometimes construed as unbearable interference, let alone the forceful commands of a relative, neighbor, friend, business associate, mate or lover born under the same, unconsciously demanding Sun Sign.

If one of the two Aries people is stronger by planetary positions at birth (not wiser and more patient, which would be beneficial, but stronger), the result of the association could be that the "weaker" Ram gradually turns into a neurotic Sheep, constantly and pathetically almost apologizing for his (or her) very existence - or else rationalizing every word and action, for fear of offending or being misunderstood. Such a situation is very sad, for to see the proud strength of a spirited astrological "animal" like the Ram reduced to weakness and tears, constantly attempting to placate the more dominate personality, yet inwardly frustrated and emotionally restricted, is against the first law of astrology: Be true to your own Sun Sign essence, or be prepared to lose the powerful individual potential of your own birthright.

It's never easy for two Rams to exist in tranquil harmony (although it can undeniably be exciting!). One happy probability is that both of them will usually be inclined to forgive and forget everything but the most cruel encounters. As for the latter, a powerful effort should be made to avoid them, because they'll be long remembered by Aries for the very same reason that infants, who instantly forget, with a trusting smile, the more commonplace hurts and pains - will recall, with subconscious terror, the deeper experiences of traumatic rejection.... sometimes forever. Two Rams will have to try to control their tendency to lash out at one another while their tempers are still hot. They'll strike a blow, shortly afterward feel a surge of guilt over their hasty unkindness, then impulsively attempt to make up for their anger by showering each other with an outburst of affection, or the peace offering of an extravagant gift. Gifts, by the way, are a Ram's way of saying "I like you" or "I love you" - occasionally given apologetically to say "I'm sorry." But never is an Aries gift given for the purpose of "buying friendship." The Mars-ruled are contemptuous of getting what they want by buying it (they're accustomed to demanding it). So they fiercely resent, and are also very deeply hurt by, such untrue insinuations or accusations. Aries gifts are always from the heart, given in a straightforward and honest gesture of good will. Nevertheless, their motives are often misunderstood by those too materialistically minded themselves to be able to comprehend giving without some ulterior motive (since that's their own pattern of behavior, they believe everyone must be the same).

Happily, this is another area of hurt two Rams probably won't inflict upon one another. Each Aries person understands the gift-giving syndrome that's part of the Mars nature (matched only by the other two Fire Signs) and, therefore, both will usually give and receive joyously, back and forth. A Ram is as delighted to receive a gift as to be able to give one. It's part of the wisdom of Aries innocence to know that it's of equal importance to graciously receive as to generously give. For if no one received happily, there could be no happy giving. Consequently, the typical Ram will react with the elation of a child to the receiving of a "surprise present," and two Arians can keep themselves broke (but exalted and happy) as a result of their mutual urge to express their enthusiasms through gifting.

Down through the centuries, the Ram has been a symbol of sacrifice for spiritually blind, emotionally warped and mentally dense religious fanatics. The Old Testament is packed with bloody examples of the "burnt offerings" of these misguided "holy men." In no way was the patriarch Abraham following "God's" wishes or commands to first be willing to murder his own son to please the Almighty, and then to "hear" God's voice grant a last minute reprieve, commanding him to murder a helpless Sheep in his place. Abraham, sadly, heard only the voice of his own delusions, not the voice of God. Neither of our infinitely compassionate and wise co-Creators would be so sadistic as to command the murder of children, or of the lowliest of our animal brothers and sisters, for Their own greater glory, as a senseless test of faith and obedience. The Earth sorely needed the example set by the gentle Nazarene, Jesus, who used the Sheep in parable after parable illustrating love and kindness, who is often pictured embracing the "lamb" and who brought to the world the image of the Good Shepherd, in his effort to straighten out the kinks in the twisted thinking of these "servants of God," who were, through their cruel sacrifices of animals, unknowingly serving Satan, for all their otherwise pious and humble attitudes.

In such mythical legends as Jason and the Golden Fleece, the sad fate of the Ram has been repeated, all through mythology, as well as in biblical history. The unfortunate Ram who attempted to cross dangerous seas and rescue a brother and sister from the jealous act of a stepmother, in a great act of courage, was unable to save the sister from drowning. When he reached the shore, and delivered the brother safely, his thanks was to be murdered, for allowing the other one to die, even though he had tried desperately to save her.

Such is the symbolic fate, in varying degrees, in all kinds of endeavors, of many Aries people. For all their enthusiastic efforts and the sincerity of their impulses, human Rams frequently are either ignored or despised for their trouble by the very ones they have tried to help. The Arian simplicity of purpose and direct approach isn't always welcomed by the more cynical of this world. Ram Thomas Jefferson discovered this, as did modern day Aries politician Eugene McCarthy. Ram Nikita Khrushchev's personal motives were also, to a large extent, misunderstood and unappreciated both by his own people and by Americans.

And so, the teaming up of two Arians can be beneficial, inasmuch as they're able to help each other avoid becoming a "burnt offering," or being sacrificed to the calculated maneuvers of the more worldly wise who would "fleece" them. They provide each other with protection against those who would otherwise take advantage of their altruistic instincts. There are always bullies who wait for a chance to attack the defenseless. Admittedly, it's difficult to image the feisty, fiery and normally outspoken Rams as "defenseless." But in the final analysis, they are extremely vulnerable to those who would use their natural guilelessness and lack of sophistication against them.

In any association between two Aries people, within the family circle, in the office or across the bridge of love and friendship, one thing is certain: emotions will periodically run high, and close to the surface. Catullus described perfectly the attitude of this Sun Sign to its own emotional immaturity, when he wrote: I hate and I love. You may ask why I do so. I do not know. But I feel it, and am in torment.

Between two Rams, there will seldom be any deception, pretense or hypocrisy, but neither will there be a great deal of caution, reason or practicality. There's very little that will be neutral in this 1-1 Sun Sign Pattern vibration of the double Mars involvement. These two are capable of reaching the far heavens of happiness, or of consuming themselves in childish displays of rage, resentment and thoughtless selfishness. Yet they will never fail to understand and sympathize with each other's bright red, diamond-dusted dreams, especially those dreams that didn't quite make it, for one reason or another. Perhaps together, they can both try again. And somehow, someway, someday they'll win. Tough dreamers always do.